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Hi Cheryl,

I will be gusty and answer this one.  I am dealing with the same problem.  While there is not a concern with going inside someone's house, I have had concerns about children respecting each other boundaries.  I have noticed that my child is uncomfortable during some play situations and even verbalized it to me.  They are great friends and play well with one another.  I had a conversation with the parent and shared my concerns.  I expressed my parenting style and the boundaries that my child deserves and asked that she help me enforce them when my child is at her home.  She seemed very open to the conversation and my requirements in order that the two play.  I would encourage you to speak up.  Share your input and concerns.  It was a difficult topic but at least she now knows what is important to me while the children play. 

 I believe you neighbor should know your criteria is which the two play.  Perhaps you could say that you are very cautious parents and don't feel comfortable allowing your child to play in their home.  If they push or inquire further share some of your concerns: safety, discipline tactics, etc.  Garla